Traditions are super important for family unity and bonding, but they are also really important for couples and marital relationships. Marriage isn’t always easy, but taking the time to create traditions and memories—just the two of you—will do wonders for marriage. It will also give you plenty of good memories to look back on.
If you’re looking to start a new tradition with your spouse, here are a few ideas to get your started:
- Cider Sippin’. Okay, I actually prefer hot cocoa, but “cider sippin’” sounds cooler. For this one, you get a babysitter and go out Christmas shopping for the kids. But you go somewhere special—just the two of you—and get some hot cocoa together. While you sip on your cocoa and enjoy the time alone, you can go over your children’s lists and make a plan of attack for the shopping.
- The Classics. I love the tradition of watching a holiday movie together. For my husband and I, it is “Elf.” Send the kids to grandma’s, or send them to someone else’s house, or give them an incentive to stay in bed while mom and dad have a date night at home. Put on a favorite Christmas movie while you wrap all of the presents. Make dinner something easy (pizza, take-out, etc.).
- T’was the Night Before Christmas. The next day will be majorly focused on the kids, so make a tradition the night before for just the two of you. It could be as little as 5 minutes, but come up with a tradition that works well for your relationship. Maybe you have a special “toast” and share your favorite memory from the last year, or maybe you exchange a special gift or letter.
- Stocking Stuffers. Get together with another couple that you both enjoy spending time with. Enjoy an activity, dinner, or treat together and then split up: Guys and Gals. collaborate together as you search for some fun stocking stuffers for your spouse. Sometimes getting ideas from someone else can be helpful, and having a girl’s and guy’s night is fun too!
- Christmas All Year Long. Rather than give each other THINGS for Christmas, give each other date nights to be enjoyed once a month, all year-long. This could be as simple as movie tickets, plays, and sporting events; or,if you can afford it one of them could be a special weekend away.
- Christmas Lights. After the first snowfall, drive around listening to Christmas music and look at all the lights.
- Themed Stockings. This is a favorite tradition all on its own! Each year, pick a theme for each other’s stockings and go to town making it fun & unique for each other. In fact, themed stockings can be such a fun tradition for spouses, that you don’t even need to worry about other gifts.
- Advent Calendar. Do an advent calendar for each other! Here is a fun idea using fishnet stockings, as well as some really fun ideas for what to put inside them: Advent Calendar For Your Spouse (If December has already started, this idea also works great for the 12 Days of Christmas, or even the Stocking for Christmas Day).