Being a woman is a gift from God. We add much value, whether we think we do or not. Proverbs 31:10 states it. It says,
“Who can find a virtuous woman? Her worth is far above rubies.” You might be thinking that you are not that woman. Well, if that’s what you think and you’ve made Jesus the Lord of your life, you are wrong.
A synonym for virtuous is righteous. When we make Jesus our Lord, we are made righteous in him. Being a virtuous woman isn’t something we are trying to become. It’s who we already are in Christ. Which means all the character qualities displayed in the woman described in Proverbs 31 are true about you.
Most people, when they read Proverbs 31, see it as someone they have to become, but that’s not the way it is. It is a picture of the woman God made us to be in Christ.
Don’t look at the things she does, because if you do, you’ll get really frustrated. Look at the character qualities that are revealed in what she does.
When you made Jesus Lord, the seed of all those qualities was planted in you. It takes watering it, weeding it, feeding it, and giving it some Sonshine that causes it to grow. When a baby is born, it’s a human being. Nothing can change that. The seed is in the baby to become a man or woman depending on if it’s a boy or a girl. The baby is nurtured and cared for and grows into an adult. The only thing that can stop a baby from turning into an adult is if the baby is not fed and cared for and dies. It’s the same with us. When we get born again God’s seed is planted in us. We care for it by spending time in God’s word, praying and spending time with God. This causes us to grow. It becomes more evident each day that the seed of God is growing in us.
Let’s look at some of the characteristic of this woman. These are for single, as well as married women. Always keep in mind that Proverbs 18: 22 states that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. The qualities found in Proverbs 31 don’t pop up when a woman gets married. They are qualities already evident in her life that she is growing in.
Proverbs 31:11 says her husband trusts her. In other words, she is a trustworthy person. She was trustworthy before they met.
Proverbs 31:12 states that
“She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” This means the seed is in us to do good towards people.
Proverbs 31:13 says she “willingly works with her hands.” The ability to work willingly is in us. Which means we can go about doing what we do with a willing heart.
I hope you can see that The Proverbs 31 woman is not someone we are trying to become. My granddaughters are not trying to become women. They are growing into women. You are not trying to be a virtuous woman. Everyday you are growing into that virtuous woman, who is in you, becoming more evident to others and to you.
I AM A CAPABLE, INTELLIGENT AND VIRTUOUS WOMAN BECAUSE IT’S WHO GOD MADE ME TO BE.
Prov. 31:10 A capable, intelligent, and virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls. AMP
I WILLINGLY WORK WITH MY HANDS.
Prov. 31:13 She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. NKJV
I HAVE SPIRITUAL, MENTAL AND PHYSICAL STRENGTH.
Prov. 31:17 She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm. AMP
I WATCH OVER MY HOUSEHOLD AND THE BREAD OF IDLENESS, GOSSIP, DISCONTENT AND SELF-PITY I WILL NOT EAT.
Prov. 31:27 She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat. AMP