Love Is...

When the Apostle Paul wrote 1 Corinthians 13:4-5, the majority of the description of love tells us what love is not.

I began to think about it. When we think about something in the negative, we tend to get a picture of the negative rather than the positive. For example, if someone told you not to look back while you were walking, what would the temptation be to do? It would take a lot for you not to look back. On the other hand, if someone told you to keep looking forward, then looking forward would be what you would do. The reason you would look forward is because when the person spoke, that’s what you got a picture of in your mind. When they told you not to look back, the picture you got was looking back.


As I thought about these two verses, I wanted to get a positive picture of what love is, instead of what it is not. I looked up the words and then found the antonym for the word, so I could have a more positive picture of who I am in Christ based on God is love and he lives in me.


When it says “Love is never envious, nor does it boil over with jealousy”, what does that mean? We all deal with envy and jealousy from time to time. How do we get out of it?


Content, pleased and admire are antonyms for envious and jealous. In order not to be jealous or envious, we have to be content and pleased with who we are and where we are. (This does not mean we stay there. We must always grow and move forward, not competitively, but because we want to do better.) It also means we admire the person and are pleased for them. Romans 12:15 tells us to

“Rejoice with those who rejoice”.

The next sentence tells us not to be boastful, vainglorious or haughty. If we aren’t those things, we are modest, humble, meek, considerate, courteous, respectful. When you are boastful, vainglorious or haughty, you do not display any of these positive character qualities.

Here is a list of some of the words you could use that would show the positive side.

  • Happy
  • Carefree
  • Considerate
  • Kind
  • Patient
  • Understanding
  • Cheerful
  • Pleasant
  • Calm
  • Serene
  • Tranquil
  • Relaxed
  • Self-controlled
  • Peaceful
  • Balanced
  • Stable
  • Satisfied
  • Delightful
  • Content
  • Good
  • Warm
  • Friendly
  • Jolly
  • Helpful
  • Personable
  • Sweet
  • Fun
  • Sympathetic
  • Courteous
  • Gracious
  • Polite
  • Modest
  • Humble
  • Meek
  • Good
  • Faithful
  • Trustworthy
  • Dependable
  • Forgiving
  • Generous
  • Devoted
  • Loving
  • Nice

The list goes on, but I hope you get the picture. It’s who God is and it’s who he made you to be in Christ. Love lives in you and grows as you meditate on him.

You are a lover, You live in God’s word and you don’t get offended (You are pleased, satisfied & honoring.)