Why We Do What We Do

A number of years ago, my husband mentioned he wanted to have a School of Domesticity for ladies. This did not mean he thought men should not know how to be domestically oriented. However, it was alarming and sad to both of us to see women getting married who did not know the first thing about taking care of a house, doing laundry, cooking, and all the day to day things that go along with managing a household. If ladies do not know what to do, they will not be able to teach their children since, in most cases, they are the person who deals the most in this realm.

Another reason for wanting to reach out to women in this way is because it is clear in Proverbs 31 that the virtuous woman manages her home well, helps others, looks good, is a business woman, is wise, and has a great attitude. My prayer is that this website will encourage you in every area of your life.

Since the rise of the women’s movement, being domestic is something that has been put down and shunned. The outcry has been "Get out of the house, get into the work force, and have someone else do the day-to-days." Unfortunately, most people cannot afford to have someone cook or clean for them. Now we have children being raised thinking that fast food is the way to go while our society has become increasingly overweight and lazy.

I know of a 9-year-old girl who was at a friend’s house. The friend’s mother was making homemade chicken pot pie. The girl asked the mother what she was making and the mother told her. The girl’s response was, “Oh, my mom buys that.” There is nothing wrong with buying already prepared food, but this girl was growing up with the thought that she would just buy all of her meals. Her parents could afford this. Her friend’s parents could not. The girl may be in a position some day where she has to cook because it is more economical. She will not know how because nobody taught her and because, through the example in her home, she was taught to buy already prepared food.

We have to teach our children to be self-sufficient, not dependent on others for everything. Knowing how to do something yourself gives a sense of pride. If individuals are taught the basics, they can venture out from there.

The main reason we should do what we do is to serve the Lord like this verse teaches us. Our desire needs to be to bring glory to Him. Does what I do give Him glory?

Our goal is to help you to bring glory to Him in every area of your life. As we do, the world will see the difference. They’ll want what we have. Remember for them, seeing is believing.

I hope you enjoy the website. I encourage you to be a part by sending in recipes, cooking and cleaning tips, family fun ideas, party ideas, and things that work for you.

As women, we influence those around us all the time. A decision needs to be made about what kind of influence we will be.

Choose to make a difference for God and His Kingdom!

What We Do

What does domesticity mean? I didn’t even know the word existed until my husband mentioned it, and then I thought he might have made it up. But it is a real word. According to Encarta World Dictionary domesticity means: “life as it is lived at home; the concerns of the home or family.” Domestic means:  “relating to or used in the home or everyday life within a household; relating to or involving the family or people living together within a household”.

The articles that will be shared on this site will deal with home and family - everyday life. If someone doesn’t take care of the everyday life issues, what happens to the family? I think we have seen over the past 40 years what happens when the care of the family is looked down upon. Yes, people have to work, but the family needs to be taken care of. Everyone in the family can work for the common good of the family by working as a team in the household. If no one knows how to do the day-to-days, this will not be accomplished.

With so many women with children working outside of the home, this creates great stress and an enormous responsibility, but I believe it can be done through diligence and know how. Philippians 4:13 tells us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us, but we can fail with a lack of knowledge according to Hosea 4:6. The articles we share will give you the knowledge you need to accomplish your domestic and other responsibilities. We will cover all aspects of what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman.

Example To The World

I desire for us to be an example to the world. I want them to look at us and ask, “How do you do it?”  Then we can give an answer and share the gospel with them. We are different. We have peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. When we are weak, in Christ we are strong.

Natural and spiritual ways will be given to enable you to be the woman God intended you to be. In spite of the fact that the Bible is an ancient book, it is very relevant and shows us how to make it in all areas of life. It is a very practical book.

Titus chapter 2 is an example. It exhorts the older women to instruct the younger women.

But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.  Titus 2:1-5 (NKJV)

Let’s also look at verses 3-5 from the New Living Translation:

Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that is appropriate for someone serving the Lord. They must not go around speaking evil of others and must not be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good.  These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to take care of their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. Titus 2:3-5 (NLT)

As you can see, this passage deals with the issues of life. Obviously, in the ancient world women were being drawn away from being homemakers or else the apostle Paul may not have addressed it. Many concerns we have today appear to be matters they had to face in the ancient world.

I find it interesting that not being a good homemaker is something that would bring shame to the Word of God. When we think of bringing shame to God, being a keeper of the home is probably not a thought we had concerning the subject. Any idea I have ever had concerning bringing shame to God had to do with not doing the Word, but I never thought of not taking care of my home as not doing the Word. I have always thought of it as being a natural responsibility of mine.

We tend to get so spiritual we neglect the natural. God is concerned about the whole man. He even cares about how we keep our home. God is interested in order. He has a divine order for everything in the universe. When there is no order, it creates confusion and a lack of peace. Order assuredly carries peace with it.

Think about it…When something is a mess, it makes it more difficult to think and to function. This includes how we look. If I am unkempt and do not take care of myself, I do not like myself. I get a bad attitude. I am not pleasant to be around. How we care for the things around us is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.

The verse instructs the older women to train the younger women “to love their husband and children.” When we are not being very loving, what is the real reason behind it? Could it be that we are in disarray which causes us for some reason to not like ourselves at the moment? What is the reason we do not like ourselves? Of course, the main reason is because we do not believe God’s Word concerning ourselves.

The Heart Of Center31

What is at the heart of being the woman we discuss at Center 31? Jesus Christ is the heart and He is Lord. Many do not believe they can accomplish even half of the things we bring up in our articles. It is very true. We all come short without the Lord Jesus in our lives.

After man sinned in the Garden of Eden, therefore, God made a way of redemption for us. Romans 3:23 states, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Everyone has missed God’s intent for their life. God sent Jesus into the world to buy us back. He redeemed us so we could spend eternity with Him.

The problem arises when we think we can attain heaven on our own.  It will not happen through our good works. Ephesians 2:9, “Not of works, lest any man should boast.”

It cannot occur through belief in anyone but Jesus. John 14:6, “Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me’”.

There is no excuse for not knowing God. By observing nature we can see God’s power and qualities.

Romans 1:17-23:

This Good News tells us how God makes us right in His sight. This is accomplished from start to finish by faith. As the Scriptures say, “It is through faith that a righteous person has life.” But God shows His anger from heaven against all sinful, wicked people who push the truth away from themselves. For the truth about God is known to them instinctively. God has put this knowledge in their hearts. From the time the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky and all that God made. They can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature. So they have no excuse whatsoever for not knowing God.  Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship Him as God or even give Him thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. The result was that their minds became dark and confused.  Claiming to be wise, they became utter fools instead. And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people, or birds and animals and snakes.

As you can see, there is only one way to get to spend eternity in heaven and the way is through Jesus. If you have never made Jesus the Lord of your life, we invite you to do so today.

Pray this prayer:

"Father, I confess to You that I am a sinner. I know I deserve hell and that I cannot earn my way into heaven. Thank You for sending Jesus to pay the price for my sins. I make the decision now to make Jesus the Lord of my life. I believe in my heart that He died on the cross for me. I choose to live for You.”

If you prayed this prayer, please contact us at info@center31.com or call our office at 708-614-6000. We would like to help you grow in your new life in Christ.